演讲 点击: 2014-05-11
TED演讲的十条黄金法则
如何登上TED演讲舞台——TED演讲的十条黄金法则
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导读:如果你喜欢TED,甚至梦想,有一天自己也站在TED的舞台上做一个演讲,本文将介绍著名的TED演讲十个黄金法则,请往下看吧~~
如果你喜欢TED,观看了TED的演讲视频,感到激动不已,甚至梦想,有一天自己也站在TED的舞台上做一个演讲,分享你的精彩创意想法和精彩故事!这太好了,这种热情的向往,是通往TED讲台之路的最大动力。除此之外还需要了解一些演讲技巧。
下面是著名的The TED Commandments(TED演讲十个黄金法则),为TED演讲者提供了建议和指南。
These 10 tips are the heart of a great TED Talk.
1. Dream big. Strive to create the best talk you have ever given. Reveal something never seen before. Do something the audience will remember forever. Share an idea that could change the world.
给自己一个高目标,要把这个演讲做成你最成功的一个演讲。你可以向观众展示某些未曾公开展示的东西或做出能够让观众留下深刻印象的事情。分享一个有可能改变世界的想法。
2. Show us the real you. Share your passions, your dreams ... and also your fears. Be vulnerable. Speak of failure as well as success.
展示一个最真实的你。分享你的激情、梦想,乃至恐惧。不要把自己当成是完美无缺的,你可以讲成功的故事,也可以讲失败的故事。
3. Make the complex plain. Don't try to dazzle intellectually. Don't speak in abstractions. Explain! Give examples. Tell stories. Be specific.
简单化。千万不要吹自己多么博学,不要用抽象的言辞来表达。你要解释为何会是这样。多讲点故事,讲得清楚一点。
4. Connect with people's emotions. Make us laugh! Make us cry!
要说得动人一点,使得观众听了会发出由衷的微笑或感动到禁不住要哭泣。
5. Don't flaunt your ego. Don't boast. It’s the surest way to switch everyone off.
不要自吹自擂。那样做的话,最容易吓跑观众。
6. No selling from the stage! Unless we have specifically asked you to, do not talk about your company or organization. And don't even think about pitching your products or services or asking for funding from stage.
台上不能推销!除非事先有通知,否则不可谈论你的公司或组织。更别指望在台上展示你的产品。
7. Feel free to comment on other speakers, to praise or to criticize. Controversy energizes! Enthusiastic endorsement is powerful!
要给其他演讲嘉宾一定的回应,可以赞可以弹。意见之对立才会擦出思维之火火嘛。激情的参与本身的力量就是这么强大的。
8. If possible, don't read your talk. Notes are fine. But if the choice is between reading or rambling, then read!
除非万不得已,否则不要照着讲稿阅读。当然可以看自己写的小纸片。但假如不看讲稿你会表述得含糊不清的话,那还是看着稿子讲吧。
9. You must end your talk on time. Doing otherwise is to steal time from the people that follow you. We won’t allow it.
必须在规定的时间内说完。因为超时就意味着剥夺了其他人的时间。这是不允许的。
10. Rehearse your talk in front of a trusted friend ... for timing, for clarity, for impact.
为了保证演讲准时、清晰、高质量,我们希望你提前跟朋友一起做试讲。
关于TED
TED于1984年由理查德·温曼和哈里·马克思共同创办,从1990年开始每年在美国加州的蒙特利举办一次,而如今,在世界的其他城市也会每半年举办一次。
它邀请世界上的思想领袖与实干家来分享他们最热衷从事的事业。“TED”由“科技”、“娱乐”以及“设计”三个英文单词首字母组成,这三个广泛的领域共同塑造着我们的未来。事实上,这场盛会涉及的领域还在不断扩展,展现着涉及几乎各个领域的各种见解。参加者们称它为 “超级大脑SPA”和“四日游未来”。
大会观众往往是企业的CEO、科学家、创造者、慈善家等等,他们几乎和演讲嘉宾一样优秀。比尔·克林顿、比尔·盖茨、维基百科创始人吉米·威尔斯、DNA结构的发现者詹姆斯·华森、google创办人、英国动物学家珍妮·古道尔、美国建筑大师弗兰克·盖里、歌手保罗·西蒙、维珍品牌创始人理查德·布兰森爵士、国际设计大师菲利普·斯达克以及U2乐队主唱Bono都曾经担任过演讲嘉宾。
大凡有机会来到TED大会现场作演讲的均有非同寻常的经历,他们要么是某一领域的佼佼者,要么是某一新兴领域的开创人,要么是做出了某些足以给社会带来改观的创举。比如人类基因组研究领域的领军人物Craig Venter,“给每位孩子一百美元笔记本电脑”项目的创建人 Nicholas Negroponte,只身滑到北极的第一人 Ben Saunders,当代杰出的语言学家 Steven Pinker……至于像 Al Gore 那样的明星就更是TED大会之常客了。
每一个TED 演讲的时间通常都是18分钟以内,但是,由于演讲者对于自己所从事的事业有一种深深的热爱,他们的演讲也往往最能打动听者的心,并引起人们的思考与进一步探索。
李世默TED演讲稿(中英文)
李世默TED:
中国崛起与“元叙事”的终结
Good morning. My name is Eric Li, and I was born here. But no, I wasn’t born there. This was where I was born: Shanghai, at the height of the Cultural Revolution. My grandmother tells me that she heard the sound of gunfire along with my first cries. When I was growing up, I was told a story that explained all I ever needed to know that humanity. It went like this. All human societies develop in linear progression, beginning with primitive society, then slave society, feudalism, capitalism, socialism, and finally, guess where we end up? Communism! Sooner or later, all of humanity, regardless of culture, language, nationality, will arrive at this final stage of political and social development. The entire world’s peoples will be unified in this paradise on earth and live happily ever after. But before we get there, we’re engaged in a struggle between good and evil, the good of socialism against the evil of capitalism, and the good shall triumph. That, of course, was the meta-narrative distilled from the theories of Karl Marx. And the Chinese bought it. We were taught that grand story day in and day out. It became part of us, and we believed in it. The story was a bestseller. About on third of the entire world’s population lived under that meta narrative. Then, the world changed overnight. As for me, disillusioned by the failed religion of my youth, I went to America and became a Berkeley hippie. Now, as I was coming of age, something else happened. As if one big story wasn’t enough, I was told another one. This one was just as grand. It also claims that all human societies develop in a linear progression towards a singular end. This one went as follows. All societies, regardless of culture, be it Christian, Muslim, Confucian, must progress from traditional societies in which groups are the basic units to modern societies in which atomized individuals are the sovereign units, and all these individuals are, by definition, rational, and they all want one thing: the vote. Because they all rational, once given the vote, they produce good government and live happily ever after. Paradise on earth, again. Sooner or later, electoral democracy will be the only political system for all countries
and all peoples, with a free market to make them all rich. But before we get there, we’re engaged in a struggle between good and evil. The good belongs to those who are democracies and are charged with a mission of spreading it around the globe, sometimes by force, against the evil of those who do not hold elections. Now. This story also became a bestseller. According to the Freedom House, the number of democracies went from 45 in 1970 to 115 in 2010. In the last 20years, Western elites tirelessly trotted around the globe selling this prospectus: multiple parties fight for political power and everyone voting on them is the only path to salvation to the long-suffering developing world. Those who buy the prospectus are destined for success. Those who do not are doomed to fail. But this time, the Chinese didn’t buy it. Fool me once… The rest is history. In just 3p years, China went from one of the poorest agricultural countries in the world to its second-largest economy. Six hundred fifty million people were lifted out of poverty. Eighty percent of the entire world’s poverty alleviation during that period happened in China. In other words, all the new and old democracies put together amounted to a mere fraction of what a single, one-party state did without voting. See, I grew up on this stuff: food stamps. Meat was rationed to a few hundred grams per person per month at one point. Needless to say, I ate my grandmother’s portions. So I asked myself, what’s wrong with this picture? Here I am in my hometown, my business growing leaps and bounds. Entrepreneurs are starting companies every day. Middle class is expanding in speed and scale unprecedented in human history. Yet, according to the grand story, none of this should be happening. So I went and did the only thing I could. I studied it. Yes, China is a one-party state run by the Chinese Communist Party, the Party, and they don’t hold elections. There assumptions are made by the dominant political theories of our time. Such a system is operationally rigid, politically closed, and morally illegitimate. Well, the assumptions are wrong. The opposites are true. Adaptability, meritocracy, and legitimacy are the three defining characteristics of China’s one-party system. Now, most political scientists will tell us that a one-party system is inherently incapable of self-correction. It won’t last long because it cannot adapt. Now here are the facts. In 64 years of running the largest country in the world, the range of the party’s policies
has been wider than any other country in recent memory, from radical land collectivization to the Great Leap Forward, then privatization of farmland, then the Cultural Revolution, then Deng Xiaoping’s market reform, then successor Jiang Zemin took the giant political step of opening up party membership to private businesspeople, something unimaginable during Mao’s rule. So the party self-corrects in rather dramatic fashions. Institutionally, new rules get enacted to correct previous dysfunctions. For example, term limits. Political leaders used to retain their positions for life, and they used that to accumulate power and perpetuate their rules. Mao was the father of modern China, yet his prolonged rule led to disastrous mistakes. So the party instituted term limits with mandatory retirement age of 68 to 70. One thing we often hear is political reforms have lagged far behind economic reforms and China is in dire need of political reform. But this claim is a rhetorical trap hidden behind a political bias. See, some have decided a priori what kinds of changes they want to see, and only such changes can be called political reform. The truth is, political reforms have never stopped. Compared with 30 years ago, 20 years, even 10 years ago, every aspect of Chinese society, how the country is governed, from the most local level to the highest center, are unrecognizable today. Now such changes are simply not possible without political reforms of the most fundamental kind. Now I would venture to suggest the Party is the world’s leading expert in political reform. The second assumption is that in a one-party state, power gets concentrated in the hands of the few, and bad governance and corruption follow. Indeed, corruption is a big problem, but let’s first look at the larger context. Now, this maybe be counterintuitive to you. The party happens to be one of the most meritocratic political institutions in the world today. China’s highest ruling body, the Politburo, has 25 members. In the most recent one, only five of them came from a background of privilege, so-called Princelings. The other 20, including the President and the Premier, came from entirely ordinary backgrounds. In the larger central committee of 300 or more, the percentage of those who were born into power and wealth was even smaller. The vast majority of senior Chinese leaders worked and competed their way to the top. Compare that with the ruling elites in both developed and developing countries, I think you’ll find the Party
being near the top in upward mobility. The question then is, how could that be possible in a system run by one party? New we come to a powerful political institution, little-known to Westerners: the Party’s Organization Department. The Department functions like a giant human resource engine that would be the envy of even some of the most successful corporations. It operates a rotation pyramid made up of there components: civil service, state-owned enterprises, and social organizations like a university or a community program. The form separate yet integrated career paths for Chinese officials. They recruit college grads into entry-level positions in all three tracks, and they start from the bottom, called Keyuan Then they could get promoted through four increasingly elite ranks: fuke, ke, fuchu, and chu. Now these are not moves from karate kids, okay? It’s serious business. The range of positions is wide, from running health care in a village to foreign investment in a city district to manager in a company. Once a year, the department reviews their performance. They interview their superiors, their peers, their subordinates. They vet their personal conduct. They conduct public opinion surveys. Then they promote the winners. Throughout their careers, these cadres can move through and out of all three tracks. Over time, the food ones move beyond the four base levels to the fuju and ju, levels. There, they enter high, officialdom. By that point, a typical assignment will be to manage a district with population in the millions or a company with hundreds of millions of dollars in revenue. Just to show you how competitive the system is, in 2012, there were 900000 fuke and ke levels, 600000 fuchu and chu levels, and only 40000 fuju and ju levels. After the ju levels, the best few move further up several more ranks, and eventually make it to the Central Committee. The process takes two to three decades. Does patronage play a role? Yes of course. But merit remains the fundamental driver. In essence, the Organization Department runs a modernizes version of China’s centuries-old mandarin system. China’s new President Xi Jinping is son of a former leader, which is very unusual, first of his kind to make the top job. Even for him, the career took 30 years. He started as a village manager, and by the time he entered the Politburo, he had managed areas with total population of 150 million people and combined GDPs of 1.5 trillion U.S. dollars. Now, please don’t get
me wrong, okay? This is not a putdown of anyone. It’s just a statement of fact. George W. Bush, remember him? This is not a putdown. Before becoming Governor of Texas, or Barack Obama before running for President, could not make even a small county manager in China’s system. Winston Churchill once said that democracy is a terrible system except for all the rest. Well, apparently he hadn’t heard of the Organization Department. Now, Westerners always assume that multi-party election with universal suffrage is the only source of political legitimacy. I was asked once, “The Party wasn’t voted in by election. Where is the source of Legitimacy?” I said, “How about competency?”: We all know the facts. In 1949, when the Party took power, China was mired in civil wars, dismembered by foreign aggression, average life expectancy at that time, 42 years old. Today, it’s the second largest economy in the world, an industrial powerhouse, and its people live in increasing prosperity. Pew Research polls Chinese public attitudes, and here are the numbers in recent years. Satisfaction with the direction of the country: 85 percent. Those who think they’re better off than five years ago, 70%. Those who expects the future to be better, a whopping 82 percent. Financial Times polls global youth attitudes and these numbers, brand new, just came from last week. Ninety-three-percent of China’s GenerationY are optimistic about their country’s future. Now, if this is not legitimacy, I’m not sure what is. In contrast, most electoral democracies around the world are suffering from dismal performance. I don’t need to elaborate for this audience how dysfunctional it is from Washington to European capitals. With a few exceptions, the vast number of developing countries that have adopted electoral regimes are still suffering from poverty and civil strife. Governments get elected, and then they fall below 50 percent approval in a few months and stay there and get worse until the next election. Democracy is becoming a perpetual cycle of elect and regret. At this rate, I’m afraid it is democracy, not China’s one-party system, that is in danger of losing legitimacy. Now, I don’t want to create the misimpression that China’s hunky-dory on the way to some kind of superpowerdom. The country faces enormous challenges. Social and economic problems that come with wrenching change like this are mine-boggling. Pollution is one. Food safety. Population issues. On the political front, the worst problem is
你不必沉迷英语 TED演讲稿
I know what you're thinking. You think I've lost my way, and somebody's going to come on the stage in a minute and guide me gently back to my seat. (Applause) I get that all the time in Dubai. "Here on holiday are you, dear?" (Laughter) "Come to visit the children? How long are you staying?"
我知道你们在想什么,你们觉得我迷路了,马上就会有人走上台温和地把我带回我的座位上。(掌声)。我在迪拜总会遇上这种事。“来这里度假的吗,亲爱的?”(笑声)“来探望孩子的吗?这次要待多久呢?"
Well actually, I hope for a while longer yet. I have been living and teaching in the Gulf for over 30 years. (Applause) And in that time, I have seen a lot of changes. Now that statistic is quite shocking. And I want to talk to you today about language loss and the globalization of English. I want to tell you about my friend who was teaching English to adults in Abu Dhabi. And one fine day, she decided to take them into the garden to teach them some nature vocabulary. But it was she who ended up learning all the Arabic words for the local plants, as well as their uses -- medicinal uses, cosmetics, cooking, herbal. How did those students get all that knowledge? Of course, from their grandparents and even their great-grandparents. It's not necessary to tell you how important it is to be able to communicate across generations.
恩,事实上,我希望能再待久一点。我在波斯湾这边生活和教书已经超过30年了。(掌声)这段时间里,我看到了很多变化。现在这份数据是挺吓人的,而我今天要和你们说的是有关语言的消失和英语的全球化。我想和你们谈谈我的朋友,她在阿布达比教成人英语。在一个晴朗的日子里,她决定带她的学生到花园去教他们一些大自然的词汇。但最后却变成是她在学习所有当地植物在阿拉伯语中是怎么说的。还有这些植物是如何被用作药材,化妆品,烹饪,香草。这些学生是怎么得到这些知识的呢?当然是从他们的祖父母,甚至曾祖父母那里得来的。不需要我来告诉你们能够跨代沟通是多么重要。
But sadly, today, languages are dying at an unprecedented rate. A language dies every 14 days. Now, at the same time, English is the undisputed global language. Could there be a connection? Well I don't know. But I do know that I've seen a lot of changes. When I first came out to the Gulf, I came to Kuwait in the days when it was still a hardship post. Actually,
not that long ago. That is a little bit too early. But nevertheless, I was recruited by the British Council along with about 25
other teachers. And we were the first non-Muslims to teach in the state schools there in Kuwait. We were brought to teach English because the government wanted to modernize the country and empower the citizens through education. And of course, the U.K. benefited from some of that lovely oil wealth. 但遗憾的是,今天很多语言正在以前所未有的速度消失。每14天就有一种语言消失,而与此同时,英语却无庸置疑地成为全球性的语言。这其中有关联吗?我不知道。但我知道的是,我见证过许多改变。初次来到海湾地区时,我去了科威特。当时教英文仍然是个困难的工作。其实,没有那么久啦,这有点太久以前了。总之,我和其他25位老师一起被英国文化协会聘用。我们是第一批非穆斯林的老师,在科威特的国立学校任教。我们被派到那里教英语,是因为当地政府希望国家可以现代化并透过教育提升公民的水平。当然,英国也能得到些好处,产油国可是很有钱的。
Okay. Now this is the major change that I've seen -- how teaching English has morphed from being a mutually
beneficial practice to becoming a massive international
business that it is today. No longer just a foreign language on the school curriculum. And no longer the sole domain of mother England. It has become a bandwagon for every
English-speaking nation on earth. And why not? After all, the best education -- according to the latest World University Rankings -- is to be found in the universities of the U.K. and the U.S. So everybody wants to have an English education, naturally. But if you're not a native speaker, you have to pass a test.
言归正传,我见过最大的改变,就是英语教学的蜕变如何从一个互惠互利的行为变成今天这种大规模的国际产业。英语不再是学校课程里的外语学科,也不再只是英国的专利。英语(教学)已经成为所有英语系国家追逐的潮流。何乐而不为呢?毕竟,最好的教育来自于最好的大学,而根据最新的世界大学排名,那些名列前茅的都是英国和美国的大学。所以自然每个人都想接受英语教育,但如果你不是以英文为母语,你就要通过考试。
Now can it be right to reject a student on linguistic ability
alone? Perhaps you have a computer scientist who's a genius. Would he need the same language as a lawyer, for example?
Well, I don't think so. We English teachers reject them all the time. We put a stop sign, and we stop them in their tracks. They can't pursue their dream any longer, till they get English. Now let me put it this way, if I met a Dutch
speaker who had the cure for cancer, would I stop him from entering my British University? I don't think so. But indeed, that is exactly what we do. We English teachers are the
gatekeepers. And you have to satisfy us first that your English is good enough. Now it can be dangerous to give too much power to a narrow segment of society. Maybe the barrier would be too universal.
但仅凭语言能力就拒绝学生这样对吗?譬如如果你碰到一位天才计算机科学家,但他会需要有和律师一样的语言能力吗?我不这么认为。但身为英语老师的我们,却总是拒绝他们。我们处处设限,将学生挡在路上,使他们无法再追求自己的梦想,直到他们通过考试。现在容我换一个方式说,如果我遇到了一位只会说荷兰话的人,而这个人能治愈癌症,我会阻止他进入我的英国大学吗?我想不会。但事实上,我们的确在做这种事。我们这些英语老师就是把关的。你必须先让我们满意,使我们认定你的英文够好。但这可能是危险的。把太多的权力交由这么小的一群人把持,也许会令这种障碍太过普及。
Okay. "But," I hear you say, "what about the research? It's all in English." So the books are in English, the journals are done in English, but that is a self-fulfilling . It feeds the English requirement. And so it goes on. I ask you, what happened to translation? If you think about the Islamic
Golden Age, there was lots of translation then. They translated from Latin and Greek into Arabic, into Persian, and then it was translated on into the Germanic languages of Europe and the Romance languages. And so light shone upon the Dark Ages of Europe. Now don't get me wrong; I am not against teaching English, all you English teachers out there. I love it that we have a global language. We need one today more than ever. But I am against using it as a barrier. Do we really want to end up with 600 languages and the main one being English, or Chinese? We need more than that. Where do we draw the line? This system equates intelligence with a knowledge of English which is quite .
于是,我听到你们问"但是研究呢?研究报告都要用英文。”的确,研究论著和期刊都要用英文发表,但这只是一种理所当然的现象。有英语要求,自然就有英语供给,然后就这么循环下去。我倒想问问大家,为什么不用翻译呢?想想伊斯兰的黄金时代,当时翻译盛行,人们把拉丁文和希腊文翻译成阿拉伯文或波斯文,然后再由拉伯文或波斯文翻译为欧洲的日耳曼语言以及罗曼语言。于是文明照亮了欧洲的黑暗时代。但不要误会我的意思,我不是反对英语教学或是在座所有的英语老师。我很高兴我们有一个全球性的语言,这在今日尤为重要。但我反对用英语设立障碍。难道我们真希望世界上只剩下600种语言,其中又以英文或中文为主流吗?我们需要的不只如此。那么我们该如何拿捏呢?这个体制把智能和英语能力画上等号这是相当武断的。
And I want to remind you that the giants upon whose
shoulders today's stand did not have to have
English, they didn't have to pass an English test. Case in point, Einstein. He, by the way, was considered remedial at school because he was, in fact, dyslexic. But fortunately for the world, he did not have to pass an English test. Because they didn't start until 1964 with TOEFL, the American test of English. Now it's exploded. There are lots and lots of tests of English. And millions and millions of students take these tests every year. Now you might think, you and me, those fees aren't bad, they're okay, but they are prohibitive to so many millions of poor people. So immediately, we're rejecting them.
我想要提醒你们,扶持当代知识分子的这些“巨人肩膀"不必非得具有英文能力,他们不需要通过英语考试。爱因斯坦就是典型的例子。顺便说一下,他在学校还曾被认为需要课外补习,因为他其实有阅读障碍。但对整个世界来说,很幸运的当时他不需要通过英语考试,因为他们直到1964年才开始使用托福。现在英语测验太泛滥了,有太多太多的英语测验,以及成千上万的学生每年都在参加这些考试。现在你会认为,你和我都这么想,这些费用不贵,价钱满合理的。但是对数百万的穷人来说,这些费用高不可攀。所以,当下我们又拒绝了他们。 It brings to mind a headline I saw recently: "Education: The Great Divide." Now I get it, I understand why people would focus on English. They want to give their children the best chance in life. And to do that, they need a Western education. Because, of course, the best jobs go to people out of the
Western Universities, that I put on earlier. It's a circular thing.
这使我想起最近看到的一个新闻标题:“教育:大鸿沟”现在我懂了。我了解为什么大家都重视英语,因为他们希望给孩子最好的人生机会。为了达成这目的,他们需要西方教育。毕竟,不可否认,最好的工作都留给那些西方大学毕业出来的人。就像我之前说的,这是一种循环。{ted演讲稿}.
Okay. Let me tell you a story about two scientists, two English scientists. They were doing an experiment to do with genetics and the forelimbs and the hind limbs of animals. But they couldn't get the results they wanted. They really didn't know what to do, until along came a German scientist who realized that they were using two words for forelimb and hind limb, whereas genetics does not differentiate and neither does
German. So bingo, problem solved. If you can't think a thought, you are stuck. But if another language can think that thought, then, by cooperating, we can achieve and learn so much more. 好,我跟你们说一个关于两位科学家的故事:有两位英国科学家在做一项实验,是关于遗传学的,以及动物的前、后肢。但他们无法得到他们想要的结果。他们真的不知道该怎么办,直到来了一位德国的科学家。他发现在英文里前肢和后肢是不同的二个字,但在遗传学上没有区别。在德语也是同一个字。所以,叮!问题解决了。如果你不能想到一个念头,你会卡在那里。但如果另一个语言能想到那念头,然后通过合作我们可以达成目的,也学到更多。
My daughter, came to England from Kuwait. She had studied science and mathematics in Arabic. It's an Arabic medium school. She had to translate it into English at her grammar school. And she was the best in the class at those subjects. Which tells us that, when students come to us from abroad, we may not be giving them enough credit for what they know, and they know it in their own language. When a language dies, we don't know what we lose with that language.
我的女儿从科威特来到英格兰,她在阿拉伯的学校学习科学和数学。那是所阿拉伯中学。在学校里,她得把这些知识翻译成英文,而她在班上却能在这些学科上拿到最好的成绩。这告诉我们,当外籍学生来找我们,我们可能无法针对他们所知道的给予赞赏,因为那是来自于他们母语的知识。当一个语言消失时,我们不知道还有什么也会一并失去。
This is -- I don't know if you saw it on CNN recently -- they gave the Heroes Award to a young Kenyan shepherd boy who couldn't study at night in his village like all the village children,
TED演讲稿
Hi. I'm here to talk to you about the importance of praise, admiration and thank you, and having it be specific and genuine.
嗨。我在这里要和大家谈谈 向别人表达赞美,倾佩和谢意的重要性。 并使它们听来真诚,具体。
And the way I got interested in this was, I noticed in myself, when I was growing up, and until about a few years ago, that I would want to say thank you to someone, I would want to praise them, I would want to take in their praise of me and I'd just stop it. And I asked myself, why? I felt shy, I felt embarrassed. And then my question became, am I the only one who does this? So, I decided to investigate.
之所以我对此感兴趣 是因为我从我自己的成长中注意到 几年前, 当我想要对某个人说声谢谢时, 当我想要赞美他们时, 当我想接受他们对我的赞扬, 但我却没有说出口。 我问我自己,这是为什么? 我感到害羞,我感到尴尬。 接着我产生了一个问题 难道我是唯一一个这么做的人吗? 所以我决定做些探究。
I'm fortunate enough to work in the facility, so I get to see people who are facing life and death with addiction. And sometimes it comes down to something as simple as, their core wound is their father died without ever saying he's proud of them. But then, they hear from all the family and friends that the father told everybody else that he was proud of him, but he never told the son. It's because he didn't know that his son needed to hear it.
我非常幸运的在一家康复中心工作, 所以我可以看到那些因为上瘾而面临生与死的人。 有时候这一切可以非常简单地归结为, 他们最核心的创伤来自于他们父亲到死都未说过“他为他们而自豪”。 但他们从所有其它家庭或朋友那里得知 他的父亲告诉其他人为他感到自豪, 但这个父亲从没告诉过他儿子。 因为他不知道他的儿子需要听到这一切。
So my question is, why don't we ask for the things that we need? I know a gentleman, married for 25 years, who's longing to hear his wife say, "Thank you for being the breadwinner, so I can stay home with the kids," but won't ask. I know a woman who's good at this. She, once a week, meets with her husband and says, "I'd really like you to thank me for all these things I did in the house and with the kids." And he goes, "Oh, this is great, this is great." And praise really does have to be genuine, but she takes responsibility for that. And a friend of mine, April, who I've had since kindergarten, she thanks her children for doing their . And she said, "Why wouldn't I thank it, even though they're supposed to do it?"
因此我的问题是,为什么我们不索求我们需要的东西呢? 我认识一个结婚25年的男士 渴望听到他妻子说, “感谢你为这个家在外赚钱,这样我才能在家陪伴着孩子,” 但他从来不
去问。 我认识一个精于此道的女士。 每周一次,她见到丈夫后会说, “我真的希望你为我对这个家和孩子们付出的努力而感谢我。” 他会应和到“哦,真是太棒了,真是太棒了。” 赞扬别人一定要真诚, 但她对赞美承担了责任。 一个从我上幼儿园就一直是朋友的叫April的人, 她会感谢她的孩子们做了家务。 她说:“为什么我不表示感谢呢,即使他们本来就要做那些事情?”{ted演讲稿}.
So, the question is, why was I blocking it? Why were other people blocking it? Why can I say, "I'll take my steak , I need size six shoes," but I won't say, "Would you praise me this way?" And it's because I'm giving you critical data about me. I'm telling you where I'm insecure. I'm telling you where I need your help. And I'm treating you, my inner circle, like you're the enemy. Because what can you do with that data? You could neglect me. You could abuse it. Or you could actually meet my need.
因此我的问题是,为什么我不说呢? 为什么其它人不说呢? 为什么我能说:“我要一块中等厚度的牛排, 我需要6号尺寸的鞋子,” 但我却不能说:“你可以赞扬我吗?” 因为这会使我把我的重要信息与你分享。 会让我告诉了你我内心的不安。 会让你认为我需要你的帮助。 虽然你是我最贴心的人, 我却把你当作是敌人。 你会用我托付给你的重要信息做些什么呢? 你可以忽视我。 你可以滥用它。 或者你可以满足我的要求。
And I took my bike into the bike store-- I love this -- same bike, and they'd do something called "truing" the wheels. The guy said, "You know, when you true the wheels, it's going to make the bike so much better." I get the same bike back, and they've taken all the little warps out of those same wheels I've had for two and a half years, and my bike is like new. So, I'm going to challenge all of you. I want you to true your wheels: be honest about the praise that you need to hear. What do you need to hear? Go home to your wife -- go ask her, what does she need? Go home to your husband -- what does he need? Go home and ask those questions, and then help the people around you.
我把我的自行车拿到车行--我喜欢这么做-- 同样的自行车,他们会对车轮做整形。 那里的人说:“当你对车轮做整形时, 它会使自行车变成更好。” 我把这辆自行车拿回来, 他们把有小小弯曲的铁丝从轮子上拿走 这辆车我用了2年半,现在还像新的一样。 所以我要问在场的所有人, 我希望你们把你们的车轮整形一下: 真诚面对对你们想听到的赞美。 你们想听到什么呢? 回家问问你们的妻子,她想听到什么? 回家问问你们的丈夫,他想听到什么? 回家问问这些问题,并帮助身边的人实现它们。
And it's simple. And why should we care about this? We talk about world peace. How can we have world peace with different cultures, different languages? I think it starts household by household, under the same roof. So, let's make it right in our own backyard. And I want to thank all of you in the audience for
being great husbands, great mothers, friends, daughters, sons. And maybe somebody's never said that to you, but you've done a really, really good job. And thank you for being here, just showing up and changing the world with your ideas.
非常简单。 为什么要关心这个呢? 我们谈论世界和平。 我们怎么用不同的文化,不同的语言来保持世界和平? 我想要从每个小家庭开始。 所以让我们在家里就把这件事情做好。 我想要感谢所有在这里的人们 因为你们是好丈夫,好母亲, 好伙伴,好女儿和好儿子。 或许有些人从没跟你们说过 但你们已经做得非常非常得出色了。
界显示着你们的智慧,并用它们改变着世界。 感谢你们来到这里, 向世
TED演讲稿
好了,我们即将潜入海底深处。
We're going to go on a dive to the deep sea,
任何一个有过这种美妙机会的人都知道
and anyone that's had that lovely opportunity knows
在这两个半小时的下降过程中,
that for about two and half hours on the way down,
是一个完全漆黑的世界。
it's a perfectly positively pitch-black world.
我们透过窗户会看见世界上各种最神秘的动物, And we used to see the most mysterious animals out the window
各种无法形容的动物。这些闪亮着的光, that you couldn't describe: these blinking lights --
完美地构成了如萤火虫般发光的世界。 a world of bioluminescence, like fireflies.
研究保护协会的Edith Witter博士
Dr. Edith Widder -- she's now at the Ocean Research and Conservation Association --
发明了一种照相机,
was able to come up with a camera
这种照相机可以拍下这些令人难以置信的生物。 that could capture some of these incredible animals,
这就是你现在在屏幕上看到的。
and that's what you're seeing here on the screen.
他们全部都是生物发光体。像我说的,就像萤火虫一样。
That's all bioluminescence. So, like I said: just like fireflies.
这是个会飞的火鸡,在树下。(笑声)
There's a flying turkey under a tree. (Laughter)
我知道我现在像是个实习期的地质学家,不过我就是喜欢。
I'm a geologist by training. But I love that.
你可以看到这些生物发出的光,
And you see, some of the bioluminescence
有些是为了避免被吃掉。 they use to avoid being eaten,
有些又是为引诱食物上钩。 some they use to attract prey,
尽管如此,用艺术的角度来看,这些都如此神奇。 but all of it, from an artistic point of view, is positively amazing.
再来看看这里发生了些什么—— And a lot of what goes on inside ...
这条鱼有着会发光,闪烁的眼睛。
there's a fish with glowing eyes, pulsating eyes.
有些颜色则可以催眠。
Some of the colors are designed to hypnotize,
多么有趣的图案。这是最后一个:
these lovely patterns. And then this last one,
也是我的最爱,像转轮一样的设计。 one of my favorites, this pinwheel design.
每一次潜水都充满着惊喜。
Just absolutely amazing, every single dive.
这正是一个未知的世界。到今天为止,我们只探索了其中的极小部分,
That's the unknown world, and today we've only explored about 3 percent
大约只占了所有海洋的3%。 of what's out there in the ocean.
到现在,我们已经发现了世界上最高的山峰, Already we've found the world's highest mountains,
最深的峡谷,
the world's deepest valleys,
水下湖,水下瀑布,
underwater lakes, underwater waterfalls --
还有我们刚才看到的。
a lot of that we shared with you from the stage.
然而,恰是我们曾经以为根本不可能有生命的地方,And in a place where we thought no life at all,
我们发现了众多的生物,还有它们的密度和多样性,
we find more life, we think, and diversity and density
都超过了热带雨林。这告诉我们
than the tropical rainforest, which tells us that
我们实际上对自己的星球还不甚了解。 we don't know much about this planet at all.
还有剩下的97%,那里要不就是一片荒芜,要不就是充满惊喜。
There's still 97 percent, and either that 97 percent is empty or just full of surprises.
不过我现在还是想说说浅水里的世界, But I want to jump up to shallow water now
来看看那些神奇的生物。
and look at some creatures that are positively amazing.
头足类动物,有头有角。小时候我把他们当作是枪乌贼。
Cephalopods -- head-foots. As a kid I knew them as calamari, mostly. (Laughter)
这是一条章鱼。 This is an octopus --
这是来自Roger Hanlon博士,海洋生物实验室的成果。
this is the work of Dr. Roger Hanlon at the Marine Biological Lab --
这些头足类动物真令人着迷,
and it's just fascinating how cephalopods can,
它用它们的眼睛,它们那难以置信的眼睛来观察周围的环境,
with their incredible eyes, sense their surroundings,
看光,看图案。
look at light, look at patterns.
这有只章鱼正在穿过礁石。
Here's an octopus moving across the reef,
找到一个位置,停下来,卷起,然后马上消失在背景之中。
finds a spot to settle down, curls up and then disappears into the background.
这很难做到。 Tough thing to do.
接下来,再来一起看一对鱿鱼。{ted演讲稿}.
In the next bit, we're going to see a couple squid.
这就是鱿鱼。当雄性鱿鱼搏斗时,
These are squid. Now males, when they fight,
如果它们想要显示出自己的侵略性,它们就变为白色了。
if they're really aggressive, they turn white.
这有两条雄鱿鱼在搏斗。
And these two males are fighting,
它们用撞屁股的方式来搏斗,
they do it by bouncing their butts together,
真是挺有意思的方法。这里有一条雄性在左边, which is an interesting concept. Now, here's a male on the left
雌性在右边。
and a female on the right,
看,这条雄性能有办法利用颜色把自己分为两半, and the male has managed to split his coloration
所以雌性只能看到它温顺,优雅的一边,
so the female only always sees the kinder gentler squid in him.
雄性-- (笑声)再来看一次。
And the male ... (Laughter) We're going to see it again.
让我们再看一次。注意它的颜色:
Let's take a look at it again. Watch the coloration:
白色在右边,棕色在左边。
white on the right, brown on the left.
它后退一步,让其它的雄性无法靠近
He takes a step back -- so he's keeping off the other males
来到另外一边,并且马上转换颜色。
by splitting his body -- and comes up on the other side ...{ted演讲稿}.
瞧!以前有人告诉我 Bingo! Now I'm told that's
这个雄性特征不仅仅是在鱿鱼身上,不过我也不太确定。
not just a squid phenomenon with males, but I don't know.
墨鱼,我很喜欢墨鱼。这是一只巨型澳大利亚墨鱼。 Cuttlefish. I love cuttlefish. This is a Giant Australian Cuttlefish.
看它,看它那双无精打采的眼睛。
And there he is, his droopy little eyes up here.
不过它们能做很神奇的事。
But they can do pretty amazing things, too.
我们马上就能看到它退入到礁石的夹缝中去, Here we're going to see one backing into a crevice, and
注意它的触角。 watch his tentacles --
它就这样把触角拉进来,使自己看起来像海藻一样。he just pulls them in, makes them look just like algae.
刹那就消失在背景中。
Disappears right into the background.
多神奇!这又是两只雄性在搏斗。
Positively amazing.Here's two males fighting.
当然,这些头足类非常聪明,
Once again, they're smart enough, these cephalopods;
他们知道如何不会伤害到对方。 they know not to hurt each other.
不过看下它们能够利用皮肤来变换图案。怎么样? But look at the patterns that they can do with their skin.
很神奇吧!
That's an amazing thing.
这是个章鱼。有时候,它们不想被别人发现它们在移动,
Here's an octopus. Sometimes they don't want to be seen when they move
因为那些食肉动物会发现它们。 because predators can see them.
看,这个家伙把自己弄的像石头一样,
Here, this guy actually can make himself look like a rock,
观察着它周围的环境,
and, looking at his environment,
然后滑过水底,
can actually slide across the bottom,
利用波纹和阴影来隐藏自己,从而不被发现。 using the waves and the shadows so he can't be seen.
就是这样,无声无息地融入环境之中。 His motion blends right into the background --
这就是移动石头的手法。我们从浅海中学到了很多新东西。
the moving rock trick. So, we're learning lots new from the shallow water.{ted演讲稿}.
继续来探索下深海领域, Still exploring the deep,
同时从浅海中学到很多新东西。
but learning lots from the shallow water.
这有个原因来解释:在浅海里,
There's a good reason why: the shallow water's
到处都是捕猎者。这是条梭鱼。 full of predators -- here's a barracuda --
如果你是条章鱼或是头足类动物的话, and if you're an octopus or a cephalopod,
你确实需要知道怎么利用周围的环境来隐藏自己。 you need to really understand how to use your surroundings to hide.
下个画面里,你可以看到一个美丽的珊瑚。
In the next scene, you're going to see a nice coral bottom.
你会发现,一条章鱼
And you see that an octopus would stand out
我以为是电脑特效。让我们看看倒放。
如果不进行伪装,极易被发现。
very easily there if you couldn't use your camouflage,
伪装是改变你皮肤的颜色和纹理。 use your skin to change color and texture.
前面这里有些海藻,
Here's some algae in the foreground ...
还有一条章鱼。难道不神奇么?不过现在,显然Roger(摄影师)吓到了它,
and an octopus. Ain't that amazing? Now, Roger spooked him
它马上释放烟雾弹——墨水来掩护逃脱。 so he took off in a cloud of ink, and when he
当它停下来,会想,“啊,我被发现了, lands the octopus says, "Oh, I've been seen.
那我最好变到最大来保护下自己。
The best thing to do is to get as big as I can get."
那片棕色让它的眼睛看起来十分大。 That big brown makes his eyespot very big.
它在唬人。让我们看一次倒放。
So, he's bluffing. Let's do it backwards --
我第一次看到的时候还以为他在开玩笑呢。
I thought he was joking when he first showed it to me.
I thought it was all graphics -- so here it is in reverse.
注意看它皮肤的颜色,以及皮肤的纹理。 Watch the skin color; watch the skin texture.